Filed under: Things I just "don't get" cuz I'm not a man...
Why is it that when women's bodies are out on display, they're public property. Let's take breasts, for example. People can look, touch, play with, lick, suck, fantasize about, whatever... If a woman in an ad doesn't have perky enough breasts, it's a problem. The nicer they look, the better -- even if you're not an "breast man."
But if we talk about not wearing a bra and having them flip flopping in the wind, or pain, or discomfort, or tenderness, or sagging, or anything else like that in a public forum, breasts are no longer public. Suddenly this is too much information. It's weird and gross and something people can't hear about.
We've now crushed hopes and dreams. People fantasize about fiction, not reality. If we remind them that breasts belong to women and are a part of the body as much as anything else is, it becomes too real. Or something??
I just really don't get this... I can fantasize about plenty of things without detaching them from reality, so what's the problem here?
- At Thu May 28, 04:59:00 PM Danny said...
I just really don't get this... I can fantasize about plenty of things without detaching them from reality, so what's the problem here? Okay I'm aware of how this will make me sound but here goes. People who detach things from reality when fantasize are doing so for the sake of their own pleasure and a part of their own pleasure (at least to some people)is the selfish act of only having oneself to think about.
Attaching objects of fantasy to reality gets in the way of their pleasure because it means its not all about them anymore.
- At Fri May 29, 11:11:00 PM ouyangdan said...
Don't forget breastfeeding. Now that's just *gross*, you see, b/c boobies should be for ogling only, and we don't need to hear about the icky ways in which they are functional!
- At Sat May 30, 09:31:00 AM frau sally benz said...
But Danny, I'm not even talking about inserting reality while you're in the moment or trying to get in the moment or anything like that -- then I'd understand. I mean just a regular day, living your life, talking casually.
I certainly don't need to know about the problems you're having with your penis or vagina or breasts or whatever when I'm in the middle of fantasizing about it in my head and trying to hook up. But if we're just talking casually in the middle of the day, by all means feel free to tell me whatever. I don't get grossed out about things like that like so many men seem to. That's the part I don't get...