I've been thinking a lot lately about polyamorous/open relationships, and really want to read up on it. I figured at least some readers might be able to share good resources and/or personal experiences.* So far, I've glanced at the wikipedia entry for polyamory, but that's about it.

Please help me out folks!

*If you prefer to contact me off the blog, you can email me.


At Fri Jan 02, 03:23:00 PM BigFred said...

Are you planning on writing some posts about it once you're read some more on it? If so, I'd be interested in what you have to say.

At Fri Jan 02, 04:12:00 PM The Unmarried Daughter said...

This page is a good start, if from a pagan perspective.


At Fri Jan 02, 05:58:00 PM Conni said...

There's polyamory.org, which is the alt.polyamory website.

At Fri Jan 02, 08:30:00 PM frau sally benz said...

Thanks for the help! Keep it coming!

I'm looking for resources b/c my guy and I are sort of in a point in our relationship where it seems like that would make sense, but we're unsure of how to move forward.

Also, I do want to use the blog as a space to explore my thoughts and feelings on it with a feminist and political take on it, as always. I think there's a lot to be said about the way a patriarchy as we conceive it has a way of forcing completely monogamous relationships, so there's a lot there to talk about.

At Fri Jan 02, 08:48:00 PM zakstar said...

Helen Fisher's Anatomy of Love explains why polyamory isn't the norm based on our reproductive and resource needs.

It's a fascinating read.

At Sat Jan 03, 11:20:00 PM maria said...

here's a link you might find helpful:


At Sun Jan 04, 06:43:00 PM Tlönista said...

Here from Feministe! My girlfriend makes all new partners read Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy's The Ethical Slut. A new edition is coming out in a few months. It's not some kind of poly textbook (though many treat it as such!), but it's a great place to start.

At Sun Jan 04, 09:59:00 PM Sungold said...

From an experiential, first-person standpoint, Jenny Block's reflections on open relationship are very readable and (for me anyway) thought-provoking.

Write something, Sally! I think about these issues a fair amount, too, even though I'm in a long established marriage where renegotiating would be nearly impossible for a slew of reasons. Whatever you and your guy end up deciding, I think you're smart to discuss these questions now rather than later.

At Thu Jan 15, 07:44:00 PM Alan said...

Excellent basic poly relationship advice:

And there's lots of good reading here (my blog):
Polyamory in the News

At Fri Jan 23, 09:39:00 AM feministblogproject said...

Wow, for some reason this didn't appear in my RSS feed until today! I am sorry I didn't see it sooner, or I would have commented/emailed weeks ago.

At Fri Jan 23, 09:41:00 AM frau sally benz said...

It's ok! I think with this whole strange Feedburner/Google merge thing is screwing up the feeds. I'd still love whatever feedback you have though.

At Thu Aug 13, 09:34:00 AM Donna said...

I have just recently found your blog through Feministe. I have been living in an active triad (MFM) for almost ten years and it is nice to see some positive commentary coming out about the poly lifestyle.

At Thu Aug 13, 01:22:00 PM frau sally benz said...

Welcome, Donna!

Stay tuned for more about open relationships not only on the two posts I have planned for Feministe, but also posts I'll be writing in the future here at JotB.

At Thu Aug 13, 03:29:00 PM joreth said...

Someone already said http://www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html and I heartily endorse that. I also recommend the following (some of which I mentioned in your other blog post):








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