I've been thinking a lot lately about polyamorous/open relationships, and really want to read up on it. I figured at least some readers might be able to share good resources and/or personal experiences.* So far, I've glanced at the wikipedia entry for polyamory, but that's about it.
Please help me out folks!
*If you prefer to contact me off the blog, you can email me.
- At Fri Jan 02, 03:23:00 PM BigFred said...
Are you planning on writing some posts about it once you're read some more on it? If so, I'd be interested in what you have to say.
- At Fri Jan 02, 04:12:00 PM The Unmarried Daughter said...
This page is a good start, if from a pagan perspective.
- At Fri Jan 02, 05:58:00 PM Conni said...
There's polyamory.org, which is the alt.polyamory website.
- At Fri Jan 02, 08:30:00 PM frau sally benz said...
Thanks for the help! Keep it coming!
I'm looking for resources b/c my guy and I are sort of in a point in our relationship where it seems like that would make sense, but we're unsure of how to move forward.
Also, I do want to use the blog as a space to explore my thoughts and feelings on it with a feminist and political take on it, as always. I think there's a lot to be said about the way a patriarchy as we conceive it has a way of forcing completely monogamous relationships, so there's a lot there to talk about.
- At Fri Jan 02, 08:48:00 PM zakstar said...
Helen Fisher's Anatomy of Love explains why polyamory isn't the norm based on our reproductive and resource needs.
It's a fascinating read.
- At Sat Jan 03, 11:20:00 PM maria said...
here's a link you might find helpful:
- At Sun Jan 04, 06:43:00 PM Tlönista said...
Here from Feministe! My girlfriend makes all new partners read Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy's The Ethical Slut. A new edition is coming out in a few months. It's not some kind of poly textbook (though many treat it as such!), but it's a great place to start.
- At Sun Jan 04, 09:59:00 PM Sungold said...
From an experiential, first-person standpoint, Jenny Block's reflections on open relationship are very readable and (for me anyway) thought-provoking.
Write something, Sally! I think about these issues a fair amount, too, even though I'm in a long established marriage where renegotiating would be nearly impossible for a slew of reasons. Whatever you and your guy end up deciding, I think you're smart to discuss these questions now rather than later.
- At Thu Jan 15, 07:44:00 PM Alan said...
Excellent basic poly relationship advice:
And there's lots of good reading here (my blog):
Polyamory in the News
- At Fri Jan 23, 09:39:00 AM feministblogproject said...
Wow, for some reason this didn't appear in my RSS feed until today! I am sorry I didn't see it sooner, or I would have commented/emailed weeks ago.
- At Fri Jan 23, 09:41:00 AM frau sally benz said...
It's ok! I think with this whole strange Feedburner/Google merge thing is screwing up the feeds. I'd still love whatever feedback you have though.
- At Thu Aug 13, 09:34:00 AM Donna said...
I have just recently found your blog through Feministe. I have been living in an active triad (MFM) for almost ten years and it is nice to see some positive commentary coming out about the poly lifestyle.
- At Thu Aug 13, 01:22:00 PM frau sally benz said...
Stay tuned for more about open relationships not only on the two posts I have planned for Feministe, but also posts I'll be writing in the future here at JotB.
- At Thu Aug 13, 03:29:00 PM joreth said...
Someone already said http://www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html and I heartily endorse that. I also recommend the following (some of which I mentioned in your other blog post):