Can someone please explain to me the whole calling people ma, mama, mami, daddy, papi, etc. thing?! I'm so serious, please explain it to me. Because I find it pretty disgusting.

I don't know about you and what turns you on, but the idea of being in a romantic relationship with my parents is just not my cup of tea. And the idea of having sex with my parents, only that much nastier.

If that's what turns you on, okay... But somehow, I doubt that all the people who say these things to people they find attractive or they're in a romantic/sexual relationship with, are actually hoping they could hook up with their own mother or father.

Also, if you and your partner/hook-up/whatever have an understanding that you will call each other by these terms, can people at least stop saying it to random strangers?! I'm sorry, but if I saw you on the street and found you attractive and actually wanted you to say something to me, it certainly wouldn't be "Hola mami" or "Hey ma." I can think of about 100 things I would rather hear than that. So if by some chance I was thinking it'd be a good idea to go home with you and have hot, passionate sex, it's certainly not happening now.

So, where did this come from, and why do people do it without feeling incredibly grossed out? Am I the only one who finds this completely bizarre?!


At Sat Jul 26, 02:01:00 AM Jean said...

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who finds this weird!

There is a guy my age at my gym who started calling me grandma - When I told him I'm nobody's granny, by choice, he said in his culture its a compliment - but for some reason it wasn't a complement for me to call him gramps, which I did, incessantly, until he learned my name.

I've often wondered about the other side of this spectrum, calling everyone babe, or baby. Or 'Oh baby, oh baby, oh baby'. As weird to me as mama etc. It isn't like we don't have enough terms of endearment in this language that we have to sexualize our words for our parents or our children...and it isn't as if we use all of the terms - although there's Oh Boy! and Atta Girl! we don't say Oh Toddler! or Oh Teenager!

Okay, I'm babbling, but I agree with you, its quite weird. I enjoy your blog!

At Sat Jul 26, 12:21:00 PM frau sally benz said...

I can at least understand the baby thing because it's kind of generational (what term of endearment is en vogue). But woohoo at least one other person understands what I'm saying! haha

At Sun Jul 27, 02:32:00 PM Phrone said...

Yeah, whenever I hear people using that kind of language, I go "Hm...maybe Freud was right?" And, yeah, I definitely find it strange. Glad someone else wrote about this!

At Sun Jul 27, 11:29:00 PM Hugo Schwyzer said...

My Colombian-American wife calls me "Papi", calls our one male chinchilla "papi", and calls her six-month old nephew "papi." I will not call her "mami." She says it's a Latin thing, but my WASPy side is made very uncomfortable using parental terms of endearment for people you get down with.

At Mon Jul 28, 11:15:00 AM frau sally benz said...

I think the mami/papi thing does seem more prevalent among Latinos, but I still refuse to say it and I've never heard my family say it to anybody other than a parent or a child.

At Thu Jul 31, 01:09:00 PM Brenda said...

I SOOOO agree! I'd never call my husband "Daddy" ... or refer to him as "my old man" for that matter. Waaaay too icky!


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